Welcome!

Welcome! This website/blog is intended to be a safe place for you to explore choices you have made in your life, to stop for a moment and question the life path you find yourself on, especially if you are unsure how you arrived here/on it in the first place. And then guide you in how to work out what’s right for you.

Most of us make choices in our lives that take us along certain pathways – education paths, career paths, family paths etc. Often, there comes a point in time where we start to wonder, ‘how did I get here?’. Quite quickly, the next question that usually comes is – ‘Is this what I want?’.

The ‘Should’ pathway

Many of us make choices in alignment with what we think we ‘should’ do – to please parents or family members, or following some well-intentioned advice we have received from someone ahead of us on a pathway we think we want to go down. Usually, a clear set of steps lies ahead. Do this degree to enter that profession. Take this course to learn that skill to get that job. Invest your time finding a partner if you want a family because biology says (we all know what it says!). Then we tend to make ourselves ‘fit’ the path. And by fitting the path, we narrow our focus. A good idea if you have a particular destination in mind.

But what do you miss out on along the way? Freedom? Space to experience and explore life? Being you?

The ‘I’m living in the moment’ pathway

We all know someone who never quite seems to have a clear plan, a desired destination, an aim. We see them move from place to place, job to job, circumstance to circumstance. They seem free as a bird, carefree, not a worry in the world, meandering along seemingly going nowhere and usually ending up somewhere, for a while anyway. Nothing permanent though.

Their focus is wide, taking in every chance, every opportunity, every experience.

They may not be lost, they may not be found. They seem free. But are they? Would this have been a better pathway for you? A pathway without intention?

The ‘I fell into it’ pathway

An opportunity arose, it sounded pretty good. You liked your circumstances and surroundings. So you went with it. Then, another opportunity arose. It fit neatly with your current circumstances, so you took it. Then another opportunity came up. By this stage, you have some time and life experience behind you. It seemed like a sensible progression, a ‘logical step’ if you will.

Someone comes along and asks you how you got to where you are now. Your answer, “Oh, I just fell into it”. You repeat that a few more times as the question comes up again and again and you start to realise, perhaps you didn’t choose your path. It chose you and you just stayed on it. But is it right for you?

Of course, there are many other pathways in life – these are just a couple of the paths that when we read about them, numerous people spring to mind that have followed one of them, most likely including you.

The ‘You’ pathway

Which brings me to the point of this website. Here, you will find guidance to help you find the ‘you’ pathway – the one that is right for you. It may well be the path you are already on. It may be a completely different pathway. It may be the freedom to meander along several pathways.

There is value in making intentional choices in our lives aligned with our true selves. Often, we make intentional choices that align with someone else’s version of us, not ours. This may be out of the strength of influence they have over us. This may be out of our choice to follow in their footsteps because we want what they have so treading the same path should get us there, shouldn’t it? We want to follow their trail to the same destination as theirs.

Or this may simply be out of the fact that we have become so conditioned by our life’s experiences, we have lost touch with our true selves – who we are, what matters to us, how we feel, our vision for our life.

There are a range of offerings that can help put us on a path back to ourselves. You will find some of them here.

Gather your courage. Come explore. Open yourself up to finding out about you. Are you ready to find the pathway back to ‘you’?

Be inspired to be you!